6 assumptions about spirituality

1. Negativity goes away if you don't focus on it

Ah negativity. I know many of us have read about the Law of Attraction and how what we think actually emanates an energy from us, attracting that very thing to us. So if I'm thinking, "I don't want to be in debt!" I'm actually still focusing on debt, but if I think, "Thank you for the abundance in my life. I will make more money," I'm open to receiving more prosperity.

A lot of new age ideas position negativity, lower entities or evilness as something we can simply ignore or not focus on. If we focus on the positive - that's all that matters! Stop thinking about the bad stuff! There's only room for positivity! 

But my friends, "bad" energy/vibes/spirit absolutely does exist. This is why it is of the utmost importance to develop protection rituals that work for us. Sometimes we can travel and step into a negative space; if we're empathic (whether we know it or not) that negativity can attach itself to us. Sometimes when we are burdened by unhealthy thoughts and mental illness, this can attract lower vibrations into our energetic field, subsequently causing them to take up house with us. We can even partake in something minor, such as thrifting a cool object, and unknowingly bring in unhealthy ("bad") energy into our lives.

Regardless of whether we focus on it or not, at some point in our lives, we will come into contact with something that isn't positive and it's important to acknowledge that and handle it accordingly.

2. Psychics are all frauds

We've all heard the story of the person pretending to be a psychic or witch, maliciously preying on a vulnerable person who is looking for hope. Here's the shitty part: yeah, that totally happens. But it's not the norm.

This is another reason why I think it is so important to develop and strengthen your personal power, so you don't put all your hope and freedom of choice into the hands of someone with otherworldly abilities. Regardless of what a psychic says to you, it's important to always maintain your freedom of choice.

There are many healers out there who are amazing, kind, humble people. There are also ambitious go-getters with tons of skills and charisma - that doesn't mean they're a fraud. Psychics interpret messages that are being shown to them. It's difficult to try to understand what they are being shown, because spirit doesn't communicate in simple language the way we do. A psychic is also viewing a potential path of yours, and you have numerous potential paths.

So if you were visiting a psychic, and she told you that you were going to marry a painter, move to Ireland and have three boys (legit happened to me once), but you leave that store and change your mind about something or take a metaphorical turn in your life, you may have stepped onto a new path, changing your potential course. The psychic was reading one potential, and it's important to understand you have many potentials.

3. All spiritual people are tree-hugging hippies

A person's deepest beliefs are not necessarily dictated by who they appear to be on the outside. Someone seeking out clients in real estate can be a deeply spiritual person. Someone working at a fast food restaurant can be a deeply spiritual person.

Spirituality is something that stems from the inside. And while it may influence personality, you may be surprised to find out that your personal trainer is a practicing buddhist, or your chimney sweeper meditates for an hour per day.

There is a lot of prejudice around spiritually-aware people - that they're flighty, living in the clouds, out of touch with reality or impractical. But there are many grounded spiritual enthusiasts who are quieter about their belief system.

For example, I live in a house - not a yurt - I drive an SUV (because it fits my carseat), I get the Globe and Mail alerts to my iPad, I contribute weekly to my investments and I have regular brunch + mimosas with my girlfriends. And I love pumpkin spice lattes.

I guess that makes me a basic hippie.

4. Spiritual people don't believe in God

There are a lot of politics around the word "God," and that's for spiritual and non-spiritual people, alike. But many spiritual people have very religious upbringings. But each spiritual person is unique. Their belief in a "higher power" may be aligned with the word God, and for some it may be Source, Goddess, Universe, the Powers that Be, or something else.

Spiritual people believe in a god-like energy, and do not eschew godliness from their lives.

I was raised Catholic. It never really sat well with me, and after my father passed away from cancer, and I developed cancer in my teens, I was 100% pure atheist, and not afraid to speak openly about it. Science was the answer for me.

So when I did begin to traipse into a more spiritual life, saying the word "God" was hard for me, because I didn't want people to assume I was a devout Christian like others where I grew up. I had serious anxiety over it. I didn't believe in the man in the sky!

As my spirituality deepened, I made peace with this inner anxiety and finally understood that all these words mean the same thing. Others are just trying to find a word that is comfortable to use in their personal life.

Another example: my girlfriend wasn't raised religious. She didn't have a strong religious belief. As she aged, she became quite spiritual, dabbling in all areas of the occult. When she began exploring christianity and angelology, it really deeply resonated with her and she became quite religious while being spiritual. She met her husband at church, and they continue to go to church on Sundays. She also reads tarot, has crystals and is a part-time yoga teacher.

Some spiritual people are very religious. Some are not religious and still believe in and use the word God.

5. They're all witches, casting spells and doing weird shit

Just like my fear around the word God, I had another fear around the word witch. Like many young teens, I loved Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Practical Magic, reading Twilight or Harry Potter, listening to Stevie Nicks - and in essence, anything I could surround myself in with cool, mystical, out-of-this-world creativity. But even as I was reading about psychics, wiccans, or buddhism, the word witch made me nervous. I didn't want to be called that.

Witch is a word that we've stained in our history, but it is having a resurgence. Like the word God, it has a lot of other pseudonyms; wizard, mystic, shaman, clairvoyant, etc.

The Hollywoodized image of blood sacrifices happening in basements is not the governing rule for spiritual humans. Besides, spirituality is unique to the person. Many associate witches with wiccan culture (though it does have cross-cultural and societal differences depending on place), which is a practice based in respecting and working with nature. This is actually so practical! We scientifically know plants are healing and therapeutic. We scientifically know we are connected to nature. But for whatever reason, when people are vocal about this respect, they're deemed weird witches.

Above all, spirituality is rooted in practicality. We share this planet with nature. Witches are aware of that. It's a practical idea to respect one another and work together to survive.

I dig the word witch now, because find me a witch who isn't charming in some way?

6. They all grow out their armpit hair

(Lol) I shave my armpits. And my legs! And actually, I'm French, so I handle the situation happening above my lip, too. But I think this assumption stems from the fact that many spiritual people are aware of the harmful products they use in their lives. Many of us like to try to introduce natural products and cosmetics into our lives where we can. This is also largely because we have strengthened our personal awareness, and we're sensitive/aware how these toxic products are actually affecting us.

The key word here is natural and for whatever reason, living harmoniously with the land, using products not riddled in toxins and trying to simplify our lives equals hairiness. It's not true.